January 28

Last Thursday afternoon we attended the local magistrates court for a hearing about my application to become my wife’s guardian. That came just 2 weeks after lodging the paperwork. I was made Administrator of my wife’s affairs by order of the court. The hearing was before the magistrate and only took 20 minutes, and then we walked out of the court with 2 copies of the order. I was very surprised that it all happened so quickly, but also relieved when it was finished.

Also last Thursday, but in the morning, after my wife had gone to the Friendship Club, I had a visit from my Carer Support contact. We discussed getting my wife into another Day Centre for an extra day each week. The one proposed specialises in dementia patients and has a very good reputation. I am going for a preliminary visit at the place on Feb 7th along with Carer Support. The day centre is run by the Brotherhood of St Laurence, an organisation which is part of Anglican Church in Australia. This link is a useful connection to their work with older people –  http://www.bsl.org.au/Services/Older-people.

Carer support also suggested that we get someone to come to do my wife’s personal care 3 times a week.  I think my wife would find that too intrusive at this stage especially with someone she doesn’t know. She does need help with showering but doesn’t have a problem with me assisting her. Carer support are going to look into the possibility of slow introduction of a personal carer, so that my wife gets used to the person before any actual personal caring happens.

I have been enrolled in a course called ‘Creative Caring’ with goes for 7 weeks starting in mid April. This course, along with the shorter course starting at the end of February, are organised by Carer Support. They will also provide a carer, at no cost, to stay with my wife while I attend the sessions.

Another course for which I have been proposed  is 6 sessions of counselling with a psychologist also at no cost to me. These can be spread over a period of 6 months, and I can opt out at any time if I want to for any reason. The first session is this Thursday while my wife is at the Friendship Club.

About labtad

Born in Halifax, West Yorkshire, England. Migrated to Australia in 1968 and now live in an outer South eastern suburb of Melbourne. Married since 1966 to my wife who was diagnosed with dementia in 2011. I am an imperfect follower of the Christian faith who believes that most things in life happen for a reason or purpose. The last 12 years, since my wife showed the first signs of having memory problems, have gradually taught me patience, compassion and some understanding of the situations that arise when a person Is living with dementia.
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